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When playing the game of “win back your ex” you need to know as much what not to do as much as you need to know what to do. Sound slightly confusing? it doesn’t have to be. Let us take a look closer and see if we can map out a path of action for you.

What not to do when you are trying to win back your ex:

1) Do not run after your ex. This is worst path to take if you want to win them back. The stench of desperation is hard to manage and will only serve to drive them away.

2) Do not threaten any kind of retaliation. This is simply childish, and more than likely they will right through it. Keep a level head and stay calm.

3) Do not call or text them. There is an enormous temptaion to do this. You are fearful of losing them, and you want to maintain that contact. This is again a signal of desperation.

4) Begging is not an option. This is probably the most distasteful act you could commit. Enter, here and you have a good chance of losing them for good.

We now have some of the “don’ts” out of the way. But, what can you do when you want to win back your ex? The first thing you want to do is to keep your emotions under control and allow the logical segment of your brain to manage your way through all of this. Sound like too arduous a task? It’s not if you keep your wits about you. Here’s the way to do it:

1) Remain unruffled. Right now you’re likely to be frantic and worried. Are they seeing someone else? Rebound relationships can be heartbreaking. Even if they are involved, it does not matter. You’ve have to take the cool approach or you don’t have a shot. Get a hold of your emotions and think for yourself.

2) Know that it is going to take some time. I know that may not be what you want to hear, but this is going to take awhile. You can’t run over, have one conversation and have it all settled. There are reasons they don’t want to be around you anymore. You are going to have show them those reasons are no longer at all valid. That will take time.

3) Figure out why you want them back. You might have to dig a little deep here, but why do you really want them back? If it’s because they are seeing someone else, that’s not a good reason. If it’s because of a misunderstanding, and you know realize just how much they mean to you, that’s a pretty good reason. Attempt to discover what was so good about you as a couple, and if that is worth the fight to keep them.

4) Map out a definitive course of action. Sit down and write it out, how you are going to do it. Think it through. Map everything out, down to the exact words you are going to say and how you going to go about saying them. Do not leave a thing to chance. And, please. Make sure this comes from your heart. If it doesn’t, they’ll see through you, and you’ll be back to square one.

You can win back your ex, even if the two of you are surviving infidelity. It is a task that can be accomplished, but most of it depends on you.