Ask These Girls

Often times, we find ourselves attracted to people who are different from us. Is it because they are a breath of fresh air? Is it because we tend to want things we do not have? Or is this attraction limited to a certain extent?

Can stark contrasts in persona’s result to a failed marriage? Can it become a convenient excuse for a change of heart? Let us scrutinize two couples, John and Victoria, on opposite poles, and Jason and Christine, very much on the same page.

When John and Victoria were introduced at a party, they were immediately attracted to each other. Soon after exchanging phone numbers, they started dating. Victoria was fascinated that John was so good with computers; and totally unlike her. He was often late; but this did not bother her. Her focus was on learning new things about him. However, as expected, the initial high of courtship eventually began to subside. Ms. Punctuality to her friends, Victoria started noticing Johns disrespect for time.

John, no longer star struck, started noticing how Victoria nagged him about time. On top of this, Victoria loved the greens and enjoyed to collect golf gifts. She always wondered why John never bothered to give her one. How could he? He never enjoyed sports. How could he possibly relate to the joy of collecting things connected to your sport? Realizing all this, Victoria wonders if they will ever get to the point where he gives her a beautiful solitaire engagement ring and asks her to marry him.

At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.

Between the two couple, who would better welcome early pregnancy signs? The couple that slowly drifted apart because the differences went unnoticed at the onset, John and Victoria? Or Jason and Christine, the pair that did not hit it at first, but over the course of time, fell for each other as they realized how alike they were?

There is nothing really wrong with either one of their lifestyles. It is just that they do not complement each other. If couples cannot find quality time to spend together, or have quality conversations, how can we expect for the relationship to grow?

Chemistry between couples must be sustained. If not, the fire dies down and is reduced to but a smoldering heap. Make sure that before falling head over heel over someone, there exists a bond, a like for things in common.