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When I think about how I lost love, I think about Alfred Lord Tennyson’s quote, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” When I lost love, I felt the whole world had collapsed around me. I am  sharing my story to help you if you too have lost the love of your life.

I think it’s important to recollect that each relationship has a natural lifespan. In Junior High, that is about 4 days. As we get older, the lifespan increases. But, there are certain relations that are right for a period and then go awry. Many of us will only have one great love in our lives. The other relations will end. That’s why when I say I lost love, I understand that this is a natural process.

In my case, my boyfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our relationship. His lease was going to end, and he would have liked to move into my loft. As we were spending almost all of our time there any way, it made sense from a monetary perspective.

But there’s something important about having separate places. I’m aware that I lost love because I could not handle him taking our relationship to this level. I believe the time span of our relationship was up because I was not prepared to become more committed.

Now, I’m aware that I handled the situation badly. I went to a chum’s bachelor party and let’s just say things got out of hand. Word about the wild escapades at the party got back to my husband, naturally, and he dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.

But, when I think back on what really happened, the events of the bachelor party were really a reaction to our discussion of more commitment. I really don’t think I’d have behaved the way I did if I actually wanted him to move in. I lost love because I wasn’t ready for the direction it was taking.

I’m satisfied I had the opportunity to be in a relationship with my ex. But I don’t believe he was the love of my life, my life partner. Instead, he was somebody with whom I genuinely enjoyed passing time. I loved him. I continue to love him. But, he is not the person with whom I see spending the rest of my life.

I went through a period of mourning the relationship and analyzing what went wrong. I was hurt when he claimed he needed to end things. Sure, I accepted I had hurt him. But, I had no desire him to leave my life completely.

I guess what I wanted was for things to resume on the way they were. But, every relationship has to grow or die. Because I wasn’t willing to let it grow, it had to die. In every relationship, there is a time to die. And, for me, this was it. That’s how I lost love.

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