Ask These Girls

When it comes to choosing a life partner, experts say too many of us remain willfully ignorant about what we really need. This is one of the reasons by finding authentic love can seem so elusive. Before being able to find your harmonious match, a key to discovering love is taking the deliberation time to understand yourself first. Four steps through this introspection:

Know Yourself: Knowing yourself means understanding your core values. These are values unlikely to change under circumstance or the passage of time. These represent what you are, and what you need. For instance, the answer to this question could come from a friend, when asked to describe you. Then, in the end, nothing matters almost as much as finding someone who matches these core values. Everyone’s core values are different, but usually include deeply personal issues such as child rearing, religious beliefs, monetary priorities, fidelity, honesty, and the priorities guiding your decision making process. A twin to this internal list is the must-haves and deal-breakers, such as no smokers, an environmentally conscious lifestyle, or being family oriented. What issues can not be compromised upon, and what can you be flexible towards?

Know What Fulfills You: Looking inside yourself can prepare you for a great relationship. While core values define our base, what fulfills us defines our expressions. Most importantly, before our own emotional needs can be met, we must know what they are in the first place. What fulfills you is answering the question of what makes your heart sing? When do you feel best? Likewise, while uncovering what sets your spirit afloat, do not expect somebody to complete you. Seeking a partner to make you feel worthwhile, to rescue you from an unhappy situation, or to bring about peace, results only in failure. You need to make yourself complete first, instead of looking for someone else to fill a missing component in your own life.

Understand Your Previous Patterns: Think about your previous relationships and consider which ones made you happiest and brought out the best side of you. Consider the signals not only in your past romantic relationships, but those with your friends and relatives as well. Which people make you feel secure, happy, and joyous? With this reflection, a pattern of personality traits should emerge. Not by coincidence, these are the same attributes that you should seek in a romantic interest. You are searching not only for these character traits, but also the way they relate to you.

Think Both With the Head and the Heart: A common mistake is thinking that a person who looks and feels good is automatically the right person for the long run. While tempting, especially at the beginning of courtship when desires run wild, it’s a different matter if the right long-term ingredients are there. Ask yourself, “Would there be smooth conflict resolution? Would we both work towards long term goals very well together? Do we have the same visions for our futures? Do we have compatible values?” Discover the answers to these questions through the natural interactions of time. Experts recommend applying a “test drive” philosophy to dating. At this stage, you’re seeing different people, taking the time to get to know them (and let them get to know you as well) before getting too seriously involved.

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