Ask These Girls

At some point in our lives we may or may not have sabotaged efforts to get ahead with either our personal wellbeing, love or employment situations without even knowing it. I know I was blocking myself from getting ahead in my marketing efforts until I realized why and started to change the way I think. I now try not to be a saboteur and think positive thoughts.

This undermining of self usually happens on an unconscious level and we need to learn to become more conscious of what we are doing and thinking in order to stop blocking ourselves. How can you find out if you are sabotaging yourself ?

Below are 15 questions that can help you decide if you are a self saboteur. Simply mark on a piece of paper all statements that may apply and then check the results. Nothing is written in stone and this is for entertainment purposes, but maybe it will give you some idea of what may be happening and why things aren’t developing the way you thought they should and maybe help you become more conscious to the saboteur in you.

1.I cannot keep my focus on important issues in my life.
2.I do not take criticism well even from my best friends.
3.I spend a lot of time around people that do not support my ideas and thoughts.
4.I seem to just spin my wheels and waste time.
5.I am a procrastinator and never live up to my potential.
6.I act on impulse when I really want something.
7.I spend my time wishing I was someone else.
8.I feel worthless if I don’t do something perfectly.
9.I don’t ask a lot of questions or offer my opinions because I don’t want to look stupid.
10.I usually always expect the worse.
11.I find myself in trouble quite often because I think I know something that I really don’t.
12.I spend most of my time helping other people with their problems and aspirations.
13.I am often moody and irritable.
14.I just don’t feel up to it today is an often used phrase.
15.I can’t seem to control my own life.

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Do you color your hair at home? Have you ever used one of those progressive dyes that changes your hair color gradually to look more natural? I know you have seen the commercials on TV. These dyes are metallic and the colors are produced by a reaction between metallic salts and the sulfur in keratin producing sulfides it then oxidizes and reduces the metal salts. Basically the metallic salts interact with the sulfur in the hair keratin and then turns the protein brown.

This is only a surface color and does not penetrate the cortex, but it builds up on the outer surface over a period of time. I know a lot of older men use these products because they don’t like going to a salon and they don’t like people thinking they are so vain. They get embarrassed easily. The younger generation really do not care. They love changing their hair color.

Professionals do not use these products because they do not work with other oxidized solutions we use in salons.I know a lot of people have found out the hard way by giving themselves home perms on top of metallic dyes. They do not mix. If you color your hair at home and decide to go for a professional perm, your stylist should ask you what brand of color you have been using. If she doesn’t then make sure you tell her because there could be a very bad chemical reaction.

Always read the label and if you do use metallic dyes it is very important to make sure you cleanse your hands thoroughly if you ingest any orally or contaminate food it can be fatal. People using these dyes (copper, lead, silver) have experienced hair loss and breakage, lead poisoning, headaches,and scalp irritations just to name a few.There are also some brands other than the progressives that use metallic salts so be very careful if you are a home colorist.

Judy Andrews is a licensed cosmetologist in York, Pa. She is currently putting together an informative beauty blog called the Beauty Denominator