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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

If you’re wondering where the romance and sweetness have gone from your intimate relationship, and you’d like it back, I’ve got some very good news for you. Financial pressures, job stress, household duties and busy schedules are not going to go away.

You’ve gotten in the habit of putting them all before your relationship needs. How did all that happen? Gradually and over a period of time, no doubt. Are you ready for some love advice that will make the difference? Well if you think that you’ll have to wait challenges of life will have to settle down for you to return to the loving intimacy you once enjoyed, think again.

You can have what you want and you don’t even necessarily have to have your mate on board 100%. By being who you want to be, I’ll show you how you can influence your partner, draw the best out of him or her and enhance your love relationship today.

1. Appreciate

Sounds simple. If you will look for as many ways as possible to compliment what your partner does, you’ll find him or her responding very quickly for more positive attention and start offering it back. Appreciation is a high state of heart awareness. It’s right up there with love. Even if you find yourself wanting to find fault, instead start finding reasons to praise. If he doesn’t do the chores you want, start making lists in your head (or better on paper) of what you would love him to do – as if he’s already in the habit of doing it. You’ll see fast shifts if you do this practice as little and 7 days.

2. Acknowledge

Acknowledgment is a powerful tool. When you acknowledge someone, you are in a deep listening mode. I’m suggesting that you listen deeply free from that internal monologue going on in your head. Free yourself of the voice in your head that has the answer, a better suggestion or solution to whatever he or she is talking about. Just listen. And acknowledge that you heard what he or she said. Your partner will feel very validated and valued. A great gift of deep intimacy.

3. Affection

Remember the little things. A loving smile, little love notes on the bathroom mirror. Dry erase markers work well on mirrors and come off very easily. Let her know how much you love sharing life with her. Stroke his arm the way you used to just because. Remember the little things.

4. Seeing Eye-to-Eye

I love this one because it cuts right down to the core. Spend 2-3 minutes looking into each other’s eyes without speaking. Just be with each other deeply, fully present. You will experience such love for your partner. This kind of love and appreciation goes beyond words. Your hearts meet. You remember all the special things about them. You experience the depth of what your love has grown into.

5. Allow

Allow your judgments to cease. Allowing is letting it be. Letting things be just as they are. There’s a lot of release from just letting go or allowing. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “Let Go and Let God.” This is the perfect stance to be in. There is an underlying perfection to your relationship exactly as it is right now. When you allow, you have access to all of that perfection.

Use as many of these tips and tools as you can. They’re all powerful. They all have the capability to spark greater love and affection between you and your partner. At times, it will involve putting your ego aside. I hope you enjoy these tools and many years of love and laughter in partnership.