Treat Your Loved One to a Romantic Meal–At Home
No matter what kind of committed pairing you’re part of–no matter if it is a long term marriage, you have three kids or no kids, boyfriend and girlfriend or a gay relationship–chances are that you are both too preoccupied with your daily routine to make enough time for each other. Most of us have more things to do than we have time in which to do them. You may well be curious about whether the world has always been this way or whether it is simply in these modern times.
Unfortunately, one of the first things to get set aside “until there is enough time” is meaningful time with our significant others. We fool ourselves into believing that we’ll suddenly find more time once this big deadline at work is finished. Or we pray that we won’t be so busy once little Sarah’s soccer season is over. We then find ourselves wondering whether our relationship has become lifeless. Maybe, we think, this occurs with all couples after they have been paired for some period of time. Even if it does, that is no excuse. No person, no project at work, no “to do” list at your home should become more important than your partner–at least not every time that a priority must be established.
Here are a few tips for a wonderful, non-traditional, intimate evening staying at your own home.
Set an evening to ship the kids off to Grandma’s (or a friend’s)
Choose some CDs that you both enjoy
Unplug or turn off all telephones, computers and any other contraptions that could possibly interrupt you
Order a chef prepared, gourmet meal from an online store–one that requires almost no work on your part but stills tastes as if it’s from a four star restaurant
Buy a bottle of the best wine oran invigorating mixture of crisp fruit juices
Hide your cars so nobody can tell you are home
Close all drapes
Turn off the lights
Light some drip less candles
Eat slowly
Take time to talk to each other
Listen intently
Finish the meal with a slice of gourmet turtle cheesecake and a glass of a complimentary dessert wine or cup of coffee
Worry about the diet some other day
Don’t do the dishes, at least not until morning
Extinguish some candles
Go to a fantasy room other than your bedroom
Try to think of any activity that relaxes you–in some stimulating manner
Oh, yeah. Say the three magic words and mean it
Go through the whole process after a month. You will still be busy, but you won’t mind as much if you take some good, quality time for focusing upon each other every once in a while.
