You Don’t Have to Go It Alone
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert , writes… …
Life Coaching for people with self-confidence or self-esteem problems is very helpful in answering this following question. Women seem to suffer mostly from trust, abandonment and worthiness issues. Coaching Life for Women is one way to solve this issue in life coaching. Anita asks: “Are some of us just destined to be alone”? Anita, since you responded to our survey concerning love and the Law of Attraction, I am going to assume you’ve thinking about finding love for you. There are many who decide to stay away from serious relationships. And that is not necessarily the situation for a person who’s given up after they have continuously failed in the past. Nothing at all is wrong with preferring to be without an intimate relationship. Life can be fulfilled and fantastic with any decision you make.
As long as you realize you are deciding that rather than throwing up your hands out of frustration that you have not found the relationship of your dreams. You can have it all in a relationship and in life.
If you could view yourself from the perspective of Source or your Inner Being, or Higher Self, you’d see a wonderful, fantastic, illuminated, connected person. Then life starts to happen around us. Our oblivious parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to teach us, teach us from day one what we need to watch out for, warn us, caution us, and try to shelter us, effectively having us listen to their fears and projections of insecurity instead of tuning in to our personal guidance systems. OK, I will grant you as simple new children we do need protection. Fine. But soon after they learn to function by themselves, self-empowerment should be part of the training for the little ones.
Well-meaning adults desire to do the best thing so they guide, hold back, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only creates an underlying insecurity and inability. The feeling of not-enoughness gets embedded as a child.
Neurological research now explains to us that until the age of 7, we’re so open and receptive, we have no filtering ability at all. We walk around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become amazed with whatever happens to enter our life experience. It is no wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misguided, beliefs about an imperfect nature. By the time we’re 6 years old, we have listened to the word “NO” about 60,000 times. Watch out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not drop that. The recurring message is you’re inept, you cannot believe in yourself, you do not understand what you’re doing, and so on.
Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They simply wanted our well-being. But you can see how simply we’ve been trained away from our inherent beauty and brilliance.
I recommend that you go easy on yourself and give yourself a chance. First off, it is not your fault. It is not even the fault of your elders. They were taught that way as well. You can stop the perpetration of lower self-esteem on yourself and those you care about. You deserve to have everything your heart wants.
Do your very best to lavish yourself appreciation and self-acceptance. Treat yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The truth is, the Universe appreciates, Spirit admires you, and your Inner Being adores you. Why? Because you ARE adorable. And that IS the reality!
